I’m going to try and post 28 times in February. Wish me luck. 😉
So! We last left off on Sunday night. Here’s how that went.
Abby went to sleep at 9 p.m. She was completely silent until 10:30 p.m. and nursed, beating us to our scheduled dream feed at 11 p.m. She was awake when I put her back in the crib and promptly fell asleep.
She woke again at 1:45 a.m. and nursed. We changed her diaper (we had her in a disposable hoping it could contain the onslaught of Abby’s bladder – but lo, there has not yet been invented a diaper that can withstand our daughter’s ability to urinate, so we changed her and her clothes). She was awake when I put her in her crib and fell asleep with a little shushpatting.
She slept until 7 a.m. (yay!) and woke up happy and somewhat starving. She nursed as though she hadn’t eaten in about a week and had two hours of playtime. Jeremy brought her in to me to see if she would nurse some more at about 8:50 a.m., but she barely hit the Boppy and was nearly asleep, so I put her in her crib (say it with me now – awake) and she fell asleep as she hit the mattress. After picking my jaw up off the floor, I went back to bed.
But alas. She woke at 9:45 and Jeremy, still a shushpat novice (can’t blame him – doesn’t have the good Nordic blood) botched the efforts at consoling her in her crib (no, I’m not picking on him – he totally admits he didn’t know what he was doing). So we had a slightly screamy girl for about half an hour when I said, “Okay Baby Whisperer. It’s on. Let’s see if it really works.”
I put her, calm but wide awake, back in her crib at 10:15 and shushpatted away. 10 minutes later, she was sound asleep and she slept until we woke her at 11 a.m. (again, trying to keep her on a sked).
She wasn’t interested in nursing (too groggy, I think) but consented to take a bottle at noon. At 1 p.m., back in the crib. Slept until almost 3 p.m. She nursed and had playtime with Abba – I was in ulpan – until 5 p.m. when we put her down for her catnap. She slept almost until 5:45 (it’s supposed to be 45 minutes) and nursed when I got home a few minutes later.
She was in the tub by 6 p.m. She had a lovely bath and gnawed on her toes for awhile (10 more nails she can scratch her face with – oh joy). After her bath, we put her in a diaper, PJs and a sleep sack (which, at five months, she has already outgrown) and wound her down. She was comfortably in her bed when the grunting began.
Did I mention she started iron supplements? A massive poo later and she fell asleep as soon Jeremy put her on the mattress. Asleep by 7:30 p.m.
She slept until 10:25 p.m. (again, waking just before we were going to give her a dreamfeed – we’ll try it earlier tonight) and nursed exceptionally well. Right back to sleep by 10:40.
Up again at 1:30 a.m. This was the first rough go we’ve had since she started falling asleep in her crib. We know how to handle grizzling and fussing. We know how to handle crying. We even know how to handle all out screaming and back arching and swatting at your face.
We had no plan in place for happiness and playing in the crib. 😦 And we didn’t change her diaper. So she got overtired and it hurt her sleep the rest of the night.
We wound her down the old fashioned way (nursing and a bit more from the bottle) and finally Jeremy just set her back in her crib. It took about half an hour, but he managed not only to get her to sleep, but to sleep without her pacifier.
Okay, so that lasted all of 45 minutes, but …Â small victories here, people.
One thing we have learned: we don’t think she’s getting enough calories in during the day, so we’re going to try and push more milk (via breast and bottle) and table the solids until she’s sleeping better. Or until we determine that calories aren’t the issue with the night wakings.
She slept restlessly until 7 a.m. Jeremy was up and down (guilty, but I slept through all of it) several times and took about 15 minutes at 5:45 shushpatting her back to sleep.
But she stayed in her crib until 7 a.m. as scheduled and she no longer falls asleep in our arms.
Tuesday was more of the same and a bit of a challenge. I was in Jerusalem for work from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m. She went down easy at 9 a.m., but stirred at 9:35 and woke for good at 10:10 despite Jeremy’s best efforts. She stayed up and had a bottle at 11 a.m. and crashed on a stroller trip out at noon. She slept until 1:30 and woke up with a massively wet diaper. She nursed when I got back home at 2 p.m. and napped from 3:30 to 5, though she woke at one point – happily playing again – and I nursed her (again, trying to push the calories).
I nursed her again at 5:45 and she ate really well. She had quiet play time until 6:15 when she took a bath with Mama – more commonly known to Abby as “going swimming in my own warm pool.” She loves it and it really tires her out. I stayed in the tub to read (thanks Jeremy!) and Abby wound it down and ate. Again. Another 220 ml. She went down perfectly – couldn’t have been better – until the intercom phone in our apartment rang and our black lab (who has gotten much more protective since Abby arrived) went batshit insane and started full out howling. She hasn’t barked that much in the previous 10 years we’ve had her.
Meanwhile, I’m in the bathtub, so I can’t do anything to help, shy of running around the house dripping wet, breasts a-waving, and attempting to calm our 85-pound dog. So yeah. I stayed in the tub. Jeremy shushpatted the dog (okay, not really, but you get the idea – he shushpats everything now – even dinner) and she went back down. She stirred a little over the next 15 minutes, but that was at 7:35 and we haven’t heard from her since. It’s the first time we’ve gotten through the first 45 minutes without a peep.
Here’s what we think is working better now:
- There is some semblance of a schedule (feel free to say “duh” now).
- She is up earlier – at 7 a.m. instead of when I roll my lazy butt out of bed.
- She is falling asleep in her crib, but because we’ve been there with her, she seems really comfortable with it. She has reached the point where she begins to flail and scream if we continue to hold her.
- We’re pushing the calories in. In hindsight, I see now that milk has more calories than … say … pureed peas (again “duh”). We pushed it on Tuesday and we’ll see if it helps.
- We’re putting her down when she’s properly tired – neither too awake nor overtired.
More updates as they happen. It’s a heckuva lot better than it was 48 hours ago. 🙂